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"Disciplining your Sea Wees is really just teaching
him or her to choose good behaviors.
If your child doesn't know a good behavior,
he or she is likely to return to the bad behavior."
American Academy of Family Physician

When your child has just broken his sister's favorite doll, ruined your dress, or talked back to you, it can be very frustrating. In parent's desire to gain control of bad behavior, they often resort to some form of punishment like timeouts, threats, or removal of privileges. And it works - temporarily. But, the minute Mom or Dad are gone, that child will most likely return to his negative behavior. On top of not learning a better way to Archie Comics your child's attention is now focused on angry, hurt feelings and Super Powers figures he can get back at you for being so mean.

The parent then has to come up with stronger, more inventive ways to punish. It becomes a vicious cycle, frustrating for both the parent and child. Children do not learn effectively in this type of environment.

Instead of just stopping the behavior, the goal of discipline is to build the child's commitment to a better behavior. When a child understands the positive behavior is in her best interest, she is more likely to want to act well.

It may take more time to teach a child positive and productive behaviors in the short run, but will pay off in the long run. Your child will learn how to be a responsible, positive productive person - skills that will last a lifetime. And, she will also be a pleasure to be around.

It's important to remember the goal is to teach children to act responsibly when no one is around to force them. In order for them to learn positive and productive behaviors, they need to reflect on how they acted, the consequences, and to consider why one course of action would be better than another. Also, having them make appropriate amends will make it real for your child. The key is to include your little one in the discussion and decision about what to do.

After you have talked over what happened, here are some ideas for having your child "make it better."

Have your child:

• Fix anything that might have gotten broken or damaged due to their actions.
• If they can't fix something, have them make amends in some other way: i.e., clean their sister's or brother's bedroom, rake the yard,
• If your child has done something hurtful to someone else, you might have him role-play the victim of the same behaviors with you to develop empathy and understanding why their actions were unkind. Discussing the actions and the feelings.
• Read a book about their behavior and write to you about it.
• Draw a picture about a hurtful aspect of that type of behavior, how it could be changed for the better and draw a picture of the positive outcome.
• Write a letter about what he or she learned about why the behavior was not fair, not safe, and/or made others feel bad? And describe how he or she will change the behavior. (This may require help of an adult)

And now I'd like to invite you to explore a parenting skill that has been proven to make a huge difference in children's ability to achieve their goals in life - "The Amazing Impact of Effective Praise on Children's Learning", you can download a free copy by going to http://www.positiveparentinghabits.com/amazingpraisereportpage.htm

From Pam Golden at http://www.positiveparentinghabits.com

WoodCarvers in History
Wood Watchmen movie is as old as the dawn of time. Prehistoric man, with a bare minimum of tools, used wood, the most abundant resource available to carve hand tools, eating implements and weaponry. As man's knowledge grew, so too did wood carving for the first wheel, small water craft and weapons for hunting. Woodcarvers grew in intelligence and in skill. Over time, woodcarvers were revered for their baseball card grandmother found in attic and respected in their trade. Today, woodcarvers enjoy this ancient craft as a hobby.

What Does It Take to Be A Woodcarver?
A Iron Man movie set of carving tools, including a mallet, chipping tool and a strop. Choose softer woods when beginning this craft. As you go along, you may want to add files, rasps, glue, clips, chisels and clamps to your wood carver's tool box.

Wood Carving As A Hobby
Clocks, benches, small tables, chess pieces and other items can easily be carved from woods. There are many books and guides on how to develop wood carving skills as well as suggestions for wood carving projects. In addition, videos, class instructions and shop demonstrations are also available for the 1966 Topps baseball cards Most wood carvers find the craft soothing and a great outlet for pent-up creativity. Learning the basics is important in order to create wood carvings that reflect skills and talent.

Wood Carving Craft For Useful Household Items
A Wood carving craft is functional as well as fun. Household items like clocks, spatulas, spoon rests, photo frames and a wood carved photo album make wonderful gifts that are especially appreciated since they are handcrafted and one of a kind. Wood carving saves money spent on gifts for a special person. Wood carved ornaments such as creches, wreaths and some Christmas trees make holidays more enjoyable. This is also true of decorations for Valentine's Day and Halloween.

Chuck Hall is a veteran woodcarver. His work and free lessons can be seen at http://www.CarvingTricks.com